Why We Pretend Women Aren’t Violent

 
In this episode, we look at the Mackenzie Shirilla case as a starting point for a broader question: how do we understand female physical violence?

The discussion moves from the details of the case — including Shirilla’s behavior before and after the crash, the public reaction, and the question of remorse — into a wider examination of how female aggression is often framed culturally. We tend to associate men with physical violence and women with relational aggression, but the evidence around intimate partner violence, family violence, elder abuse, and child homicide complicates that picture.

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I'm a 37 year old woman. My bullies have only ever been female. I've had shitty boyfriends... but people who WANTED to hurt me- have never been male.

00:00 — Are women less physically violent? 00:38 — The Mackenzie Shirilla case 03:41 — Cluster B traits and interpersonal dominance 08:56 — Female sociopathy and violent women 09:10 — The myth of domestic violence as male-only 09:26 — Intimate partner violence data 10:12 — Why female violence is often framed as self-defense 10:41 — Why women report using physical aggression 10:56 — Gender symmetry in older violence studies 11:35 — Teen boys and dating violence victimization 11:49 — The problem with using general crime statistics 12:22 — Violence in female-dominated settings 12:37 — Elder abuse and female perpetrators 12:50 — Mothers, filicide, and neonaticide 13:41 — How society interprets male vs female violence

ΠΗΓΗ Hannah Spier, MD

Are women really much less violent than men or have we been gaslit?
On today's episode we look at the Mackenzie Shirilla case and this:https://t.co/IJ1kUBLA37 pic.twitter.com/7Tyx8BolIf

— Hannah Spier, MD (@hannahspierMD) July 9, 2026

It’s simply SEXISM to blame the man and treat the woman differently… pic.twitter.com/jTbERz7jre

— Steve Jones (@SteveJonesmt) July 10, 2026

KAI TO ΠΡΟΒΛΗΜΑ ΓΙΝΕΤΑΙ ΑΚΟΜΑ ΧΕΙΡΟΤΕΡΟ ΜΕ ΤΗΝ ΠΡΟΤΡΟΠΗ ΑΛΛΑ ΚΑΙ ΤΗΝ ΑΝΟΧΗ ΤΩΝ ΔΙΕΦΘΑΡΜΕΝΩΝ ΑΡΧΩΝ, ΘΕΣΜΩΝ ΑΛΛΑ ΚΑΙ ΤΗΣ ΓΥΝΑΙΚΟΚΕΝΤΡΙΚΗΣ ΚΟΙΝΩΝΙΑΣ ΠΟΥ ΕΠΙΤΡΕΠΟΥΝ ΚΑΙ ΠΡΟΤΡΕΠΟΥΝ ΑΛΛΑ ΚΑΙ ΕΠΙΒΡΑΒΕΥΟΥΝ ΑΥΤΕΣ ΤΙΣ ΚΑΚΟΒΟΥΛΕΣ ΜΝΗΣΙΚΑΚΕΣ, ΜΙΣΑΝΔΡΙΚΕΣ ΣΥΜΠΕΡΙΦΟΡΕΣ ΣΕ ΠΕΡΙΠΤΩΣΕΙΣ ΠΟΥ ΔΕΝ ΥΦΙΣΤΑΤΑΙ ΠΡΑΓΜΑΤΙΚΟΣ ΚΙΝΔΥΝΟΣ ΠΑΡΑ ΜΟΝΟ ΣΤΟ ΠΑΡΑΝΟΙΚΟ ΚΑΤΕΣΤΡΑΜΕΝΟ ΜΥΑΛΟ ΤΟΥΣ...

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That amounts to a dangerous sex-based double standard around violence. One that already exists in the criminal justice system and will only get worse.

— Dad Matters (@dadmatters_uk) July 2, 2026

I read her paper. She goes further than that. She advocates that women should engage in proactive violence against men.

She flew over the cuckoo's nest.

I wrote a review on one of her books on Goodreads:https://t.co/sCe3QxwHJB

— Gender Studies for Men (@JohnDavisJDLLM) July 3, 2026

ΚΑΙ ΤΟ ΑΠΟΤΕΛΕΣΜΑ ΑΥΤΟΥ...ΕΧΟΥΜΕ ΚΑΙ ΣΤΗΝ ΧΩΡΑ ΜΑΣ ΠΟΛΛΑ ΤΕΤΟΙΑ ΕΠΕΙΣΟΔΙΑ ΑΛΛΑ ΟΠΩΣ ΞΕΡΕΤΕ ΥΠΑΡΧΕΙ Η ΕΠΙΒΟΛΗ ΣΙΩΠΗΣ ΑΚΟΜΑ ΚΑΙ ΑΠΟ ΘΕΣΜΙΚΟΥΣ ΑΚΤΙΒΙΣΤΕΣ!!! 

He was walking away. That girl just wanted to mace him. pic.twitter.com/pcBgB9NxXe

— Noscito Ryan (@Noscito_Ryan) July 10, 2026

@grok , did the woman that assaulted the man with bear mace face any charges? Elder abuse, assault, illegal use of a caustic agent? pic.twitter.com/ZcdWLwHQTf

— Kim Sorgente (@KimSorgente) July 10, 2026

He has every right to speak to them in public. And they have every right to ignore him. If you use a self defense weapon on someone who is walking away, not making threats of violence or giving pre assault clues, and is out numbered - that might be assault. pic.twitter.com/4iJzDHijQO

— S Kutz (@sjkz) July 10, 2026

He was walking away. I hope that girl is jailed for assault pic.twitter.com/PF24UZb8Ty

— Heartbreak Hub 💔 (@FEmmanuel11497) July 10, 2026

As a now former police officer, she can be charged with assault, and depending how old he is, those charges could go up if it's an assault on a senior. Was he childish, absolutely, but he was also absolutely walking away from the situation. It's like shooting a man in the back.

— meecha (@meecha80) July 11, 2026

This happened about 2 weeks ago, no charges were laid.https://t.co/j8CYhuHAa8

— Nap Solo (@CrepitusMaximus) July 10, 2026

ΚΑΙ ΠΩΣ ΤΑ ΦΕΜΙΝΙΣΤΙΚΑ ΜΕΣΑ ΜΑΖΙΚΗΣ ΕΞΑΠΑΤΗΣΗΣ ΠΑΡΟΥΣΙΑΖΟΥΝ ΤΟ ΘΕΜΑ...ΚΑΙ ΟΧΙ ΜΟΝΟ ΓΙΑ ΤΟ ΣΥΓΚΕΚΡΙΜΕΝΟ (Η ΠΑΡΑΤΗΡΗΣΗ ΕΝΟΣ ΓΗΡΑΙΟΥ ΑΝΔΡΑ ΠΟΥ ΔΕΝ ΕΙΧΕ ΑΠΟΛΥΤΩΣ ΚΑΝΕΝΑ ΚΑΚΟΠΟΙΗΤΙΚΟ ΣΚΟΠΟ ΣΤΗΝ ΟΜΑΔΑ ΤΩΝ ΓΥΝΑΙΚΩΝ ΧΑΡΑΚΤΗΡΙΣΤΗΚΕ ΩΣ HARASSMENT-ΠΑΡΕΝΟΧΛΗΣΗ ΚΑΙ ΠΟΥ ΤΟΥΣ ΕΔΩΣΕ ΤΟ ΕΔΩΣΕ ΝΑ ΤΟΥ ΕΠΙΤΕΘΟΥΝ ΤΗΝ ΩΡΑ ΠΟΥ ΕΦΕΥΓΕ..)...ΚΑΙ ΕΧΟΥΜΕ ΑΠΕΙΡΕΣ ΤΕΤΟΙΕΣ ΑΠΟΔΕΙΞΕΙΣ ΓΙΑ ΤΗΝ ΣΥΣΤΗΜΑΤΙΚΗ ΔΙΑΒΟΛΙΚΗ ΔΙΑΣΤΡΕΒΛΩΣΗ ΤΗΣ ΠΡΑΓΜΑΤΙΚΟΤΗΤΑΣ  ΓΙΑ ΣΥΓΚΕΚΡΙΜΕΝΟΥΣ ΣΚΟΠΟΥΣ ΚΑΙ ΛΟΓΟΥΣ ΤΟΥΣ ΟΠΟΙΟΥΣ ΕΧΩ ΑΝΑΛΥΣΕΙ ΕΔΩ ΚΑΙ ΠΑΡΑ ΠΟΛΥ ΚΑΙΡΟ...

What feminism teaches women: pic.twitter.com/QF7i8xrUk6

— Ambar (@Ambar_SIFF_MRA) June 16, 2026 

ΠΛΕΟΝ ΔΕΝ ΜΠΟΡΟΥΝ ΑΛΛΟ ΝΑ ΤΑ ΚΡΥΒΟΥΝ ΟΣΟ ΚΑΙ ΕΑΝ ΠΡΟΣΠΑΘΟΥΝ...

Once again, to the men: please record for your safety. She accused him of hitting her when he was trying to leave. She held him against his will all because he wouldn’t “greet” her. There is absolutely no excuse for this behavior.

She threatened his freedom simply because she… pic.twitter.com/UUb67Wy9vw

— Daphne (@celebriD) July 5, 2026

HOW DO WE STOP THIS GIRL FROM BECOMING A MONSTER?
This is a call for DV lessons at all schools to address menace of toxic femininity.
MRA groups want respectful relationship programs rolled out across all WA schools amid a horror spate of murders of men at the hands of their… pic.twitter.com/HKhVEpsMvD

— Radical MRA (@fuckfeminism_01) June 26, 2026

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— math4feminists (@math4feminists) June 18, 2026

AND CAMERA...STAY SAFE... https://t.co/brPGAfaY4O

— Chris Faceof Trimitzios (@trimitzios3776) June 17, 2026

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The data has been well-known for decades, but is concealed by feminists (and the govt).
Erasure of female violence is a core method of feminist activism, if not the central method. https://t.co/ywlbx7SrhA pic.twitter.com/MDXpe11xXw

— Jeffrey Ketland (@jeffreyketland) July 10, 2026